The Poles Apart Sex Position Explained

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Chances are you and your partner have never tried the Poles Apart sex position — it's honestly a little tricky to picture at first. Still, plenty of couples swear by it, since it delivers strong G-Spot stimulation without needing deep penetration. It's a bit more unusual than most entries in our list of the most satisfying sex positions.

To set it up, both of you lie on your sides facing the same direction. That might sound identical to the Spoons position, but it isn't. Rather than your head lining up with his, you rearrange so your head sits near his feet and your feet sit near his head — lying head to toe, as pictured above. From there, he enters you from behind, either vaginally or anally.

Her Role In The Poles Apart Position

The head-to-toe arrangement can feel a little disorienting the first time you try it. Even so, the mechanics closely mirror Spooning — just move slowly and steadily. Since you're both lying fairly straight, keeping him from slipping out can be tricky, so don't hesitate to curve your body slightly to help him stay in.

Your main job is pushing back against his thrusts. You're also free to touch yourself or finger yourself if you're having anal sex in this position.

His Role In The Poles Apart Position

Your man's movements in Poles Apart closely resemble Spooning — gentle, steady thrusts. Gripping your legs gives him extra leverage and helps him reach deeper.

If you're into having your feet played with, this position is ideal, since your feet sit right within reach of his hands and mouth for kissing and massaging — a real treat if either of you has a foot fetish.

Tips For The Poles Apart Position

Poles Apart doesn't get nearly the attention it deserves, given how simple it is and how much pleasure it delivers to the G-Spot. Still, we've gathered some solid feedback from Love Curi readers:

• It works equally well for anal and vaginal sex.
• Despite close body contact, some couples find it feels less intimate since your faces and mouths end up far apart.
• It's fairly easy to pull off — really just requiring some penile flexibility — making it a great option for shaking up your routine.

Similar Positions

Twister

Kind of the same, but you're facing one another.

Bent Spoon

Here's another where you're lying on your man.

Butterfly

If you like resting your ankles on his neck but not lying on him, try this one!

Down Stroke

Very similar but much more vertical.

This position shares many similarities with the 100+ positions in our guides, especially the side by side spooning positions here.

Sean's Take On The Poles Apart Position

I'm genuinely fond of Poles Apart. One thing I like to do while in it is adjust the penetration angle by bending — sometimes just a little, sometimes a lot — even though at that point it's technically drifted away from being the true Poles Apart position.

April 11, 2021