Giving Oral Sex To A Guy – A Beginner's Tips

Learning to give oral sex to a guy works the same way any other skill does — it improves with repetition. The more you practice, the sharper your blow job techniques will get, and your partner will notice the effort too. This walkthrough covers everything you need from the very beginning to give your man great head with your mouth.

Getting Ready

Before you give your man a blowjob, there are a few essentials to handle first. They may not feel especially glamorous, but they matter for staying safe and keeping things enjoyable with your partner long-term.

The big one: are both of you healthy and free of any infections? This isn't about whether you showered today.

It's about something more serious. Regular checkups with a doctor are the only real way to confirm neither of you is carrying an infection or STI. If there's any doubt at all, use a condom to be extra safe, and encourage your partner to take the same precaution. Once you've both confirmed you're clear, everything else gets much simpler.

Fresh breath and a clean mouth matter too, so brush your teeth thoroughly and rinse before going down on him. If he tends to be on the hairier side, suggesting a trim beforehand can make things more comfortable for both of you.

If he seems reluctant, mention that you can do an even better job once he's trimmed. Or flip the question and ask whether he'd like you to trim up before he eats your pussy — if he says yes, that's your cue to say you feel the same way about him.

Once you're both confident you're clean and healthy, it's time to get started.

Where to Do It

If you've never gone down on your partner before, doing it somewhere private the first handful of times will make it far more comfortable. That usually means your bedroom or his, though if you have the house to yourselves, other rooms work too. Once you've built up some comfort and experience, branching out to new spots — or even having sex outside — becomes an option worth exploring.

The Act Itself

Once you're alone together, it's time to start sucking his cock. He might feel a little nervous or shy about the whole thing, in which case you may need to take charge instead of waiting for him to initiate. No need to overthink it — just get him settled on the bed.

Related: How to initiate sex.

With him lying down, start with regular kissing. As you kiss, let your hand drift downward until you're gently rubbing his crotch through his pants. You should feel his erection building beneath the fabric — once you do, unbutton and unzip his pants and pull them down (he'll likely help at this point).

With his pants out of the way, his erect penis should be easy to access. Wrap your hand around it and start with a gentle hand job — keep it soft and brief, under a minute, so you still have time left for the blowjob itself.

From here, transitioning into oral is straightforward — lower your head toward his crotch and take his penis into your mouth. Be careful not to take it in too deep too fast, or you risk gagging, coughing, or sputtering, none of which feel particularly sexy in the moment.

Start slow, moving your mouth up and down while keeping your lips sealed around him the whole time. Plenty of saliva makes a real difference — the wetter, the better it tends to feel for him. Your tongue can also gently massage his penis as it moves in and out of your mouth.

After a few minutes of this steady technique, he'll likely reach orgasm. His breathing is usually your best clue — it grows louder and more intense as he gets close. When he does climax, you can either take his load in your mouth or pull back beforehand if you'd rather skip the taste.

Related: Learn how to make your man cum powerfully.

Fast Tips for Oral Sex

Nervous because it's your first time? Turning off the lights can take a lot of the pressure off.

Giving head tends to be easiest in blow job positions where he's lying flat on his back or standing while you kneel. In most other positions, his stomach or legs tend to get in the way.

February 8, 2022