The Face Off 69 Position

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The Face Off sex position is a 69 variation most men have never encountered — perfect for surprising him right when sex starts to feel a little routine. Browse our recommended sex positions whenever you're craving something new.

To get set up, your man sits on the floor or bed, legs stretched straight out, upper body upright. You then stand facing the same direction as him, positioning yourself so your butt hovers near his face, feet planted outside his legs. From there, bend forward to give your man a blowjob, while your own position leaves you fully exposed for him to perform cunnilingus in return.

What You Do In The Face Off Position

In the Face Off, your focus narrows to three things:

1. Staying comfortable
2. Keeping your balance
3. Delivering a great blowjob

1. Comfort is easier than it sounds. Straight legs tire fast, but bending your knees lets you hold the position much longer. Feeling the need for a break? Stand upright while he keeps going down on you. And for some, simply adjusting to being upside-down takes a bit of time.

2. Balance comes down to planting your hands on the floor and spreading your legs fairly wide, similar to a lap dance stance.

3. For the full breakdown on delivering a great blowjob, check our dedicated section on blow jobs and fellatio.

What Your Guy Does In The Face Off Position

Your man's role is considerably simpler. He's focused on two things:

1. Helping you stay balanced
2. Delivering great cunnilingus – cunnilingus tips

1. To help with balance, he gently wraps his hands around your legs or back to hold you steady.

2. Some men naturally focus on their partner's pleasure; others need a nudge. If he's not quite hitting the mark, guide him verbally as he goes — try "That feels amazing," "Right there," or "Don't stop." This kind of positive feedback helps him zero in on what actually works. Our guide to sexual communication has more ideas along these lines.

Tips To Keep In Mind When Trying The Face Off Position

The Face Off isn't a 69 variation most people would dream up on their own, but it's a genuine blast! Here's some solid feedback from students who've given it a try:

• Struggling to bend over comfortably? Position your feet closer to your man's back to reduce how far forward you need to lean.
• You can also use the Face Off purely for receiving — meaning less bending, or even staying fully upright throughout.
• If simultaneous oral isn't working well in this position, try switching to a handjob instead.
• Reversing the setup (him standing and leaning over while you sit) doesn't translate well — it makes cunnilingus genuinely difficult for him.
• This one can feel like a genuinely dominant oral sex position for the female partner.

Positions Along The Same Lines

69

69 – The classic mutual-oral position.

Lie Back

Lie Back – A blowjob position performed lying on your back.

Golden Gate

Golden Gate – Trickier to pull off, but worth it if you're flexible.

Explore even more 69 positions in our full guide.

Sean's Take On The Face Off Sex Position

I'm a fan of the Face Off. It's a genuinely refreshing twist on standard 69, which makes for a welcome change of pace. My only real gripe is that it can leave a woman tired, or a bit disoriented from being upside-down, while it stays remarkably easy for the guy involved.

March 1, 2021