14 Ways To Be A Bad Girl Men Absolutely Adore

The mythical "lady in the streets, freak in the sheets" is essentially every man's fantasy woman, but nailing the balance between good girl and bad girl isn't simple. You want to be the woman he'd bring home to meet his mom — not just the one he brings home. Early in a relationship, that balance tends to come naturally, but once things get comfortable, your inner bad girl can quietly fade into the background.

Being a good girl overall is genuinely fine, but injecting a bit of wildness now and then keeps your relationship fresh. Here are 15 ways to embrace your bad girl side and keep him on his toes.

1. Flirt

Being in a committed relationship doesn't mean flirting has to stop. It can be tricky, though, to slip back into that "still figuring each other out" energy. Make it easier by turning your next date night into a game: arrive separately at a bar and act like total strangers meeting for the first time.

See if you can charm him all over again and enjoy the thrill of "going home with a stranger." Want more flirting tips? Check out this guide to flirting with your man.

2. Make The Move

Women constantly hear that men are supposed to initiate, but guys genuinely appreciate it when you take the reins sometimes. Rather than waiting for him to lean in on the dance floor, go for it whenever you feel like it.

Remember there are levels to making a move, so even if you don't technically go first, you can still escalate things. Turn a routine goodbye kiss into a surprise makeout session, for instance.

3. Sext Him Out Of Nowhere

The easiest way to slip into a flirty headspace is inventing a game. Ease into dirty texting with a "guess the color of my underwear" game — the winner gets a photo as proof.

For extra playfulness, use Snapchat so he only gets a fleeting glimpse before it disappears. Sexting also doubles as a great way to float fantasies before you're actually together. For more, check out the examples in this guide to sexy text messages and this one on dirty texts.

4. Don't Shy Away From PDA

Secretly, most people fantasize about being watched during intimate moments. Part of the thrill comes from that extra jolt of adrenaline tied to the risk of getting caught.

A core piece of embracing your bad girl side is taking a few risks. Sure, making out mid-restaurant or at the park isn't exactly polite, but that's precisely what gives it an edge of "danger." He also won't see it coming. Just don't take it too far — a sneaky butt grab while walking together is fine, but reaching around the front in public is probably crossing a line.

5. Dress The Part

Maybe skip this for a visit with his parents, but on a hot date night, go all out! Boost your confidence and leave him staring with a little help from Spanx, your best push-up bra, and heels that make your butt look incredible.

You don't even need to leave the house to embrace this energy. Lounge around in boy shorts and a loose tee with no bra on. Or plan a swim later and wear your bikini around beforehand, guaranteed to grab his attention. More on dressing sexy in this guide.

6. Stay Independent

Nothing's sexier than a woman who's genuinely self-sufficient, and as the old saying goes, we always want what feels just out of reach. The surest way to make him want you more is proving you don't need him.

Hold onto pieces of your life that stay entirely yours: your friend group, a hobby, a passion project, whatever it is.

This gives him room to miss you, and it keeps the relationship interesting since you both have separate experiences to share and discuss. For both of you, embracing your own individuality and staying clear on your own needs is essential for a genuinely happy, healthy relationship.

7. Speak Your Mind

Similar to staying independent, being a bad girl sometimes means just saying what's on your mind, out loud.

That covers everything from disagreeing with his political take to telling him exactly what you want to do to him later tonight. Speaking honestly takes courage, and it keeps him guessing. It also builds a dynamic rooted in honesty, which is foundational to any real relationship. When you're honest with him, you can trust he's being honest right back. That means less time spent arguing or worrying, and more time discovering just how bold the two of you can really be.

8. Take Charge In The Bedroom

Toss out everything you've heard about how women should behave in bed. Sure, guys generally like leading — it's just how they're wired. But every so often, they genuinely love it when you flip the script and tell him exactly how you want it.

What better moment to seize control than when he's completely at your mercy? You don't need full bondage gear, but bringing home handcuffs or a blindfold can ease him into the dynamic and make it simpler for you to take charge. For more on dominating in the bedroom, check out this guide.

9. Shake Things Up

Long-term relationships often hit a wall where sex feels routine (read: dull). We help you push past exactly that here at Love Curi.

Noticed some stagnation creeping in? Bringing something fresh into the bedroom is one of the most powerful ways to unlock your inner bad girl. Grab a copy of the Kama Sutra and try new positions, even the absurd ones, or hit up a costume shop for some roleplay essentials.

Need inspiration or just want to set the mood? Watching porn together and taking mental notes is a great way to guarantee a steamy follow-up.

10. Skip Out On Responsibilities

On a whim, decide to blow off work and do something fun and unplanned with him instead. Take him to a game, hit the beach, or spend the entire day in bed together. He'll be genuinely surprised you took a risk for him, and you'll find it easy to lean into the bad girl mindset right away.

11. Hit A Strip Club

Next time you're out together, cap off the night (or save this for your next bad girl moment) with a trip to a strip club. This can be tough if jealousy or shyness is your thing, but going together forces you both out of your comfort zones and into something new and exciting shared together.

Figure out what turns him on most and treat him to a private performance later that night.

12. Take A Pole Dancing Class

Want to sharpen your moves further? Pole dancing classes are hugely popular right now. Fair warning: the workout is intense. The upside is you'll tone up quickly, boosting your confidence and sex appeal when it's time to showcase your new skills for your partner. Learn more about stripping in this article.

13. Get A Tattoo And/Or Piercing

Remember Sandy from Grease finding her inner bad girl for Danny with leather pants and giant hoop earrings? Same basic concept for modern times. Go subtle with a cartilage piercing, or bolder with something in your belly button, tongue, or somewhere more private.

Or get a "for your eyes only" tattoo, giving you a built-in excuse to strip down later.

14. Dirty Dance At The Club

Plenty of people assume clubs are strictly for single people, but they're also a great spot to reignite intimacy in a relationship. Dress up, have a couple drinks, and let loose dancing to sexy pop and rap tracks. By the end of the night, he'll be begging you to bring those moves home.

Rediscovering your bad girl energy throughout your relationship is a great way to keep things exciting, but pace yourself. Overdoing it strips away the surprise factor, turning outrageous or sexy gestures into something predictable instead.

Beyond that, living the bad girl lifestyle full-time isn't really sustainable if a serious, lasting relationship is the goal. Being a good girl most of the time actually makes your bad girl moments hit harder, since he'll feel like the lucky one who gets a glimpse of a side nobody else ever sees.

November 28, 2020