The Bended Knee Sex Position

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The Bended Knee sex position isn't one most people ever consider, and that's exactly what makes it useful. Since almost nobody's tried it, pulling it out is an instant way to show your man you're up for adventure between the sheets. Some folks think of Bended Knee as a simpler cousin of the Ballerina, but if it's not quite your speed, there are over 100 other options in our sex position list.

To try the Bended Knee, both partners kneel facing one another in an upright stance, staying close together. Your man plants one knee down while raising his other leg to set his foot flat on the bed beside him. You mirror that by lifting your leg on the matching side and resting it across his. From there he slides in and begins thrusting. Expect to need a bit of flexibility and stamina if you want to hold this one for a while.

Holding each other in a close embrace will help both of you stay balanced.

What The Woman Does In The Bended Knee Position

Your job in the Bended Knee isn't demanding — mostly you're pushing back against your man as he thrusts. Wrap your arms around his waist, or slide them up under his arms to grip his shoulders instead.

The leg you've rested over his can double as a lever, giving you something to push against as you move up and down. Don't overthink that part, though — put your energy into holding him close and kissing him deeply on his mouth, cheeks and neck. Learn how to kiss like a pro.

Feel free to play with your nipples too, if that gets either of you going.

What The Guy Does In The Bended Knee Position

Your man will be pulling you into him while thrusting at the same time. He can cup your butt to help lift you, and while he's moving he can kiss your lips and neck or run his fingers through your hair.

Things To Consider When Performing The Bended Knee Position

Not many of my students have given the Bended Knee a shot. Of those who did, here's what they reported:

• Penetration tends to stay shallow, so it won't do much for you unless shallow penetration is your thing. A handful compared it to more of a stretching workout than sex.
• Tilting to one side lets you reach deeper penetration.
• Even when the sex itself felt lukewarm in this position, most still described it as surprisingly intimate and close — especially with a tight embrace.

Similar Positions

Blooming Orchid

A related pose where your top leg bends at a 90-degree angle, matching your man's.

Book Ends

More stable, since you're both kneeling on the bed.

Kneeling

You kneel fully at the bed's edge while he stands beside it.

Dancer

An advanced standing pose where you lift and bend one leg toward his ribs.

Find these and more kneeling positions for sex.

Sean's Thoughts On The Bended Knee Sex Position

The Bended Knee doesn't allow for much depth, which works out well if your man is on the longer side or you'd rather have just the first few inches of your vagina stimulated. Even though it's not my favorite, that doesn't mean you should write it off entirely — give it a shot at least once before deciding it's not for you.

April 11, 2021