6 Ways To Make Bathtub Sex With Your Man Even Hotter

It's easy for couples to fall into a rut of taking each other for granted. Between work, school, kids, and everything else competing for your time, there's often barely enough room left for real intimacy with your partner. That's exactly why bathtub sex deserves a spot on your list.

Bathtub sex doesn't just give you a relaxed way to reconnect after a long day or week — maybe with a shared bottle of wine — it also opens the door to trying some new positions, which can genuinely energize your sex life. That said, pulling off sex in the tub isn't always as easy as it looks.

Before You Try Bathtub Sex

If your tub runs narrow, sharing it in any sexy way is going to be a stretch. What does that mean exactly? You might technically manage doggy style in a cramped tub, but will it feel too awkward or uncomfortable to bother? A wider tub always makes for a better experience, so if you've got access to a whirlpool-style tub at home or in a hotel for the weekend, you're in great shape!

Bathtub sex looks effortlessly sexy in movies, but reality often tells a different story. You might end up feeling cramped and awkward, unable to find the right angle to actually get off. And once the water starts cooling, you may find yourself more eager to climb out and wrap up in a warm robe than to keep going.

Keep in mind that using condoms in the tub is notoriously tricky, so if that's your main method of protection, this might not be the activity for you. And any products already in the water during sex can potentially work their way into your vagina, raising the risk of an uncomfortable bacterial infection.

Even if solo baths are a regular habit, that's a very different situation from actually having sex in the tub.

Making Bathtub Sex Genuinely Sexy

Without some prep, bathtub sex can turn into little more than a big, wet mess. Here's how to avoid that.

1. Give The Tub A Real Clean

It's hard to feel sexy surrounded by soap scum — or worse. Give your tub a thorough scrub before bathtub sex, and clear out any stray kids' toys or bottles of soap that might break the mood.

2. Get The Temperature Right

Too hot and you'll scald yourselves; too cold and you'll be shivering. Aim for a happy medium, and be ready to top up with warm water as time passes to keep you both comfortable.

3. Don't Overfill It

Filling the tub for two people who'll be moving around calls for less water than a solo soak. Water shifts as your bodies do, so you may need to drain a bit once you're both in if it's too full.

4. Keep Lube Within Reach

It might sound counterintuitive, but water can actually dry you out, so having lube on hand matters if fingers, a penis, or toys are involved. Water-based lube washes away with the bathwater almost immediately, so reach for a silicone-based lube instead — easy to find at pharmacies and sex toy shops. Silicone lube doubles as a massage oil too, in a pinch!

5. Bring In The Bubbles

Bubble bath turns basic cleansing into something genuinely fun, and that goes double with a partner. Pick a scent that gets you in the mood for a little aromatherapy on the side. No bubble bath on hand? A splash of body wash or shampoo works too!

6. Have Warm Towels Ready

One extra touch that elevates the whole experience: throw your towels in the dryer beforehand and keep them within reach of the tub. They'll feel wonderfully cozy when you towel each other off afterward — and don't just take care of yourself, dry your partner too. It's a surprisingly intimate moment, and you might find the sex that follows the bath even better than what happened in the tub itself!

The Best Positions For Bathtub Sex

Sharing a bathtub can feel awkward even without sex on the agenda. There's none of the open space a mattress gives you, so it helps to plan your positions ahead of time. If you've ever watched a movie where two lovers slip beneath the bubbles, they were almost certainly in one of two setups.

• Facing each other, knees bent, feet tucked to the side of the other's legs and hips.
• Facing the same direction, one partner leaning back against the tub with legs spread. Sitting between your partner's legs (mind the anatomy!) lets him reach around to rub your clit or breasts, and lean in to kiss your neck and shoulders.

It really comes down to personal preference, and how you'd like things to unfold once you're actually in the water. Give these a shot!

• Cowgirl: He leans back while you ride him. Kneel for secure support, hands resting on either side of the tub.
• Reverse cowgirl: A modified take on this classic, with water swirling around you as you rock your hips against him.
• Missionary: Your man will likely need to kneel to pull this off in the tub, and scooting toward the edge makes access easier for you.
• From behind: Lean over the side or end of the tub while he enters from behind. You'll end up closer together than with doggy style, which is no bad thing!

Don't overlook using the tub itself as a prop rather than the venue — lean against the edge while kneeling on the bathroom floor, or perch on the rim while going down on him. Learn how to give amazing oral in this post.

If leaning on the tub proves uncomfortable for either of you, a water-safe tub pillow adds cushioning. A folded towel works fine too, provided you don't mind tossing it in the laundry afterward.

Staying Safe During Bathtub Sex

Safety matters a lot with both shower and bathtub sex. Sitting in a tub is generally safer than standing for shower sex, but it's far from foolproof, especially if you're bracing yourself on hands or knees, which can slip out from under you without warning. Nonslip stickers or mats add a layer of security, and skipping bubble bath or shower gel can help cut down on slipperiness too.

If you do slip, instinct will likely send your hands reaching for something to grab onto. Aim for the side of the tub, which is sturdy — faucets and knobs aren't built to bear your weight and can snap right off. Never treat your faucet as a handhold during bathtub sex.

Railings and handles actually rated to hold body weight are far safer options to grip. There are third-party products worth looking into as well — Sportsheets, for instance, makes a whole shower sex line with handles and footholds that attach securely to your tub or shower wall, boosting both safety and pleasure during bathtime romps!

Finally, Hollywood loves to surround its bathtub scenes with candles, but that's not always realistic. For one, ringing your actual tub with candles while still being able to move freely and avoid setting yourself on fire is genuinely tricky. And candles that tip over can cause real damage.

Keep any candles secured on counters or shelves out of reach, and keep pets out of the bathroom during bathtub sex so open flames stay well away from them too!

Follow this advice, and sharing a bath with your lover can be genuinely erotic and intimate. And if it turns out to feel more awkward than worthwhile for you, that's completely fine too.

November 9, 2020