The Cowboy Sex Position

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The Cowboy position shares a name with the Cowgirl position for good reason — it's basically its mirror image. In Cowboy, the man is on top while you lie flat on your back, the reverse of Cowgirl's setup. It's one of many related moves. Browse the rest in our guide to fun sex positions.

Your job here is simple: lie back with your legs together. Your man straddles you, legs on either side, his weight resting on your legs as he lowers himself to enter you. Raising your hips can help him slide in more easily at first. From there, he can shift forward or backward to whatever angle feels best and most stimulating for you both.

What The Girl Does In The Cowboy Position

There's not much required of you in the Cowboy position — just lie back and enjoy the ride! Initial entry can be a bit tricky for your man, so if that happens, try spreading your legs (admittedly tough with him straddling you) or lifting your hips to close the gap. It's generally better to let him guide himself in rather than pulling him down yourself, since pulling too hard risks hurting him.

What The Guy Does In The Cowboy Position

Your man handles nearly all the movement here — he's doing the thrusting. He can adjust his entry angle by leaning forward or back while on top, shifting his hips accordingly.

Be sure to tell him what feels best for you. Learn more about talking about sex in this guide.

When he's positioned right in the Cowboy, his pubic bone can brush against your clitoral hood and just above it, delivering stimulation similar to the Coital Alignment Technique. More on the coital alignment technique.

Things To Consider When Performing The Cowboy Sex Position

Here's some of what I've picked up from student feedback on the Cowboy position:

• Your man needs a degree of flexibility for this one, thanks to the angles involved. His penis will bend downward as he penetrates you unless he's leaning far forward over your body.
• The Cowboy shines if you prefer shallow penetration, or if your man is on the larger side — again, thanks to the angles at play.
• Because your legs stay together, it'll feel noticeably tighter than standard Missionary.

Similar Positions

Cowgirl

Flip the script and take the reins yourself!

Praying Mantis

His legs stay outside yours, but yours bend upward.

Drill

Bring your legs outside his hips and cross your ankles behind his back.

Discover even more positions with your man on top and you on your back here.

Sean's Thoughts On The Cowboy Position

As a guy, I'm genuinely a fan of the Cowboy position. Leaning right over my partner gives it an intimacy that rivals missionary. My one gripe is the transition into the position itself — it can feel a bit clumsy, and while I've never actually hurt myself, it does put some strain on the suspensory ligaments of the penis, so caution is worth it.

March 8, 2021