20 Telling Signs He Wants You – Fully Explained

Do you always figure out someone liked you well after the moment has passed? Maybe you're completely oblivious when someone's into you because you don't know which clues to watch for, or you're stuck wondering whether a friend could be something more. Knowing what to look for helps you catch those near-misses and decide when to make a move, or when to walk away. Here are twenty signs that a guy likes you.

Now, any single one of these signs on its own doesn't mean much and definitely doesn't guarantee he wants you, it could just be coincidence. But if you spot two or three happening together in a short window, and they keep repeating, chances are good he wants you.

The more of them you can check off, the more likely he wants you! And once you're actually dating, remember you'll find a ton of awesome sex positions here and plenty more sex tips on the site.

The Obvious Signs

How a guy behaves around you can tip you off to his intentions right away, so watch closely. Your friends, or his, might catch on before you do, so it's worth looping them in to get a read on things.

1. Teasing – You probably hated it back in school, but not much changes once you're an adult. If a guy pokes fun at your inability to play a sport, mispronounce a word, or even your height, that's usually a good sign he wants you. Just make sure the teasing never crosses into meanness, keep an eye out in case he's simply being unkind.

2. Touching You – Just as women playfully punch guys they're into, men often can't keep their hands off someone they like. It could be as obvious as a lingering hug, but even that annoying hair ruffle might reveal something. Notice if your hands brush against each other, especially when there's no crowd forcing it. If you find yourself leaning toward him and he doesn't pull away, that's a good sign for you two.

3. He Mirrors You – This isn't the teasing kind of mimicking. When people are drawn to each other, their brains send signals to subconsciously mirror one another. Maybe he sits the way you do, or his laugh starts sounding a bit like yours. He has no idea he's doing it, which can actually help you spot his feelings before he even recognizes them himself.

4. Showing Off – Guys instinctively want to prove they're the top pick to a potential partner, probably some leftover survival instinct. He wants to impress you, so he does things like driving a little too fast, arm wrestling his friends, or tossing you over his shoulder. It can come off a bit much, but it's a genuinely good sign he wants you!

Signs Rooted In Thoughtfulness

A guy who spends real time thinking about you might just be the one. This matters even more if it means he's shaking off his usual flakiness. Just make sure you're not confusing this with someone who's simply thoughtful by nature. Is he doing these things just for you, or for everyone in his life? In other words, are you actually the one he's singling out?

5. Dropping Everything For You – Whether you need a rescue from a stranded car on the highway or a spontaneous ice cream delivery, he's there. Maybe he'd rather spend time with you than his own friends. Small favors add up to a big hint that he wants you, though be careful not to take advantage if you're not interested back.

6. Surprisingly Thoughtful – It's one thing when he does what you ask, but it's a real sign when he does things you never even requested. Maybe he notices how much you loved that pumpkin latte today and shows up with one tomorrow. Or he remembers a random detail about your childhood, or that thing you once mentioned hating, and factors it in. He's trying to earn points with you.

7. Remembering Everything – If he recalls every conversation you've had, even ones you've forgotten yourself, he's clearly paying attention, and clearly into you. He might even remember exactly where you were or what you wore when you said something specific. It's a nice feeling when someone's that engaged with you.

8. Noticing Changes – New boots, a fresh haircut, a manicure, whatever you change, he notices and says something. He might not love every change, but he clocks when there's a new spring in your step because you're feeling good, and he wants to keep that going.

Signs He's Flattering You

Flattery is a classic way to win someone over, so if a friend or acquaintance consistently does the following, he might be angling to take things further.

9. Laughing at Jokes – Even if you're terrible at delivering punchlines, he smiles every time you try. It's a classic sign of interest, and it'll make you smile too. Just remember both men and women can fake a laugh when they're attracted to someone or trying to get them into bed, so don't hand your heart to the first guy who chuckles at your puns.

10. Complimenting You – Whether he's proud of your recent graduation, promotion, or a new skill, or he's quick to praise how you handle parenting or your home, he genuinely values your talents. A guy who's into you won't shy away from bragging about your skills to his friends, even if you outshine him at something. That said, if his compliments only ever touch on your looks or how you perform in bed, he might just be after something casual, worth reading into a bit more.

Sharing Friends, Interests And More

When he's not stingy about sharing, he might care more about your happiness than his own convenience. Sharing his interests and his circle shows he wants to spend time with you and wants you to remain part of his life.

11. Sharing His Drink – If the two of you can casually share a water bottle, you might want fewer barriers between your mouth and his. Him being fine sharing a straw is worth noting. That said, not sharing doesn't automatically mean disinterest, maybe he's just thirsty, germ-conscious, or nursing a cold. Not everyone's comfortable sharing a toothbrush either!

12. Letting You Have The Fries – If you're known for swiping food off other people's plates even when you claim you're not hungry, notice if he doesn't mind you snacking on his fries or coleslaw. He might even order those items specifically because he knows you love them. That's a pretty solid sign.

13. Hanging With Friends – Maybe he's eager to introduce you to his friends, or he loves meeting yours. This signals he wants you woven into his life long-term, or vice versa, which is great news if you're interested. It's also a low-pressure way to get closer without him sacrificing his own social life. Be wary, though, of a guy who expects you to mingle with his crowd without ever returning the favor. No matter how much he might seem to like you, that's not relationship material. Guys who avoid introducing you to friends or family, even while sleeping with you often, might be hiding something.

14. Offering His Coat Or Hoodie – You shiver, and he responds by draping his coat over your shoulders or handing over his hoodie, still warm from his body heat. Both point to him wanting you, or at least being a gentleman. Take a one-off occurrence with a grain of salt, but enjoy the warmth regardless. If he leaves his favorite hoodie behind at your place after hanging out, though, that's a stronger tell.

15. Watching Chick Flicks – Sure, a handful of guys genuinely enjoy Jennifer Aniston rom-coms, but most don't. If he's willing to sit through one with you on a Friday night instead of going out with his buddies, he's probably into you. The same goes for any interest that seems out of character for him. The opera or a museum trip might not be his thing, but he says yes anyway. You enjoy it, so he's willing to give it a shot. Pretty sweet, right?

Modern-Era Signs He Wants You

Smartphones, the internet, and social media have completely reshaped dating and romance. You can learn more about someone than ever before with a few taps, and plenty of people broadcast their feelings online without meaning to. How someone interacts with you digitally is a genuine window into how they feel, or don't.

16. Texting You First Thing – If you get a "Good Morning" text daily, or you know he reaches for his phone to message you the moment he wakes up, it shows you're on his mind before anything else. Same goes for "Good night" texts or a habitual lunch-break check-in.

17. Making Sure You Got Home Safe – It's a nice feeling when someone needs confirmation you made it home okay. Whether he calls or texts to confirm you got from the cab to your door safely, or drives you there himself, that could point to genuine interest. It might also just be politeness, though.

18. Liking Every Single Post – If someone hits "like" on every tweet, blog post, or photo you upload (and doesn't do the same for everyone else) you can take that as a pretty clear signal.

19. Sending You Memes – Whenever something reminds him of you, and there's plenty that will, he sends it your way. This is a clear signal he wants you thinking about him too, and it's likely to make you smile. It's also an easy conversation-starter even when there's nothing specific to say.

20. Ignoring His Phone Around You – A guy who can tune out incoming texts and his social feed just to focus on you might be smitten. Then again, he could just be polite. This sign alone won't confirm much, but combined with others, it's worth noting.

Some of the signs that he wants you also overlap with the signs that he enjoys eating your pussy.

Plenty of the signs here can simply be politeness, and they're easy to misread, especially in isolation. But if you can check off nearly the whole list, it might be time to make a move. Don't wait too long, or he might move on to someone else. Hesitating too long can send an unintended message: that there's no chance for the two of you.

It's not only moving too slowly that can sink your romantic plans, either. Watch out for a guy who's happy to get physical but won't spend time with you outside the bedroom. No matter how much you like him, he might just not be that into you beyond sex. If that works for you, great! Just don't fall into the trap of sticking around purely for the attention in bed.

If you're both fine keeping things casual, watch for these signs that he enjoyed it to keep him coming back.

Of course, the number one sign he likes you is simply that he tells you. A guy capable of putting his feelings into words is definitely worth considering as boyfriend, or more, material.

Side note: If you're really into him, learn how to tell if he only wants sex or is also open to a relationship.

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October 13, 2020