10 Easy, Quick Ways To Reach a Hands-Free Orgasm

How do you typically get off? If you're like most women, it's through your hands, a toy, or your partner's body. Plenty of us fall into using the same handful of methods every time, but most people are actually capable of climaxing in far more ways than that. One trend gaining traction: getting off without touching yourself at all.

Yes, hands-free orgasms are entirely possible for a lot of women, and some can even be achieved with nobody around you noticing a thing. Find out how to become orgasmic during your commute or while standing in the checkout line with the techniques below.

True Hands-Free Orgasms

For purists, a true hands-free orgasm means zero physical stimulation whatsoever — a serious challenge. If that sounds like your kind of experiment, or you're just after something new, the following approaches might do the trick.

1. Thinking Yourself Off

This might sound far-fetched, but some people genuinely can bring themselves to climax purely through thought. Most of the guidance here leans a bit new-age, so it won't click for everyone.

The technique involves settling in, focusing on your breathing, and letting your imagination run. Some people zero in mentally on their erogenous zones, while others picture their chakras "breathing." Adding Kegels into the mix can help too.

Keep in mind these orgasms might not feel centered in the genitals at all. Some describe them more like "energy" orgasms. If that all sounds a bit too woo-woo for your taste, you might prefer...

2. Sleep Orgasms

Some women stumble onto the ability to orgasm while asleep completely by accident (learn more about accidental orgasms). They wake up having already climaxed or ejaculated. This is common among boys hitting puberty, but women can experience it too.

If you're already prone to orgasming in your sleep, you're already set for this method. If it's new territory, try nudging things along by encouraging arousing dreams.

Discover how to have vivid, arousing sex dreams.

3. Binaural Beats

Some people report reaching hands-free orgasm just by listening to binaural beats — an audio format that layers two tones together to produce the illusion of a third. The low frequencies involved create a kind of vibration effect.

Just listening can be enough to give men erections. Feeling aroused, even tingly, early on is typical. Some describe a lull in sensation right before an unexpected orgasm arrives. Like the "thinking off" method, orgasms from binaural beats tend to feel less genitally focused.

You'll find plenty of binaural beat samples on YouTube, and ASMR-focused sites often carry orgasm-specific tracks too. Results will vary from person to person.

4. Erotic Hypnosis

If you're open to hypnosis, consider a use for it beyond quitting bad habits or party tricks: orgasm. Hypnosis generally requires a practitioner to guide you under and steer you toward your goal, so look for a reputable hypnotist who specializes in the erotic variety.

Thanks to the internet, though, you can also find erotic hypnosis videos on YouTube to walk you toward a hands-free orgasm.

5. Erotic Meditation

Standard meditation leaves you calm and centered, while the erotic version might just deliver an orgasm without a single touch! If you're already skilled at meditating, you can layer fantasy into your thought process yourself.

Otherwise, follow along with an erotic meditation recording or video. These typically walk you through a sensual scenario — a sultry beach scene, say — complete with sound cues that help you picture the waves and sand as arousal builds. That buildup can eventually tip into a powerful orgasm.

Notice a pattern in the methods above? Most rely on openness to suggestion and being guided through a mental sequence, often with soft music or a soothing voice helping you relax.

But these approaches won't do much if you're not receptive to suggestion in the first place. In that case, a different style of hands-free orgasm might suit you better.

Hands-Free Orgasms (With a Little Help)

Some people define "hands-free" loosely as simply not using your hands — meaning anything else is fair game. Trying these methods can be a fun challenge if you're used to relying on your hands. You might not climax right away, but you may discover your body reacts to stimulation you hadn't tried before.

1. Bathtub Faucet or Showerhead

This is one of the most common hands-free masturbation methods among women, and many discover it completely by accident. Water pressure against the clitoris can feel incredible, and a handheld showerhead lets you keep the tradition alive once you're out of the tub.

Related: 14 Powerful Masturbation Techniques

A perk of masturbating with a showerhead is that you're already somewhere private, so folding solo pleasure into your shower routine is an easy way to sneak in an extra orgasm or two each day — and masturbation carries plenty of its own benefits.

2. Panty Vibrators

Most sex toys still require your hands to operate, but panty vibrators are built specifically to be worn and used hands-free. Some have a single button you press before tucking them into your underwear (or the panties they come with), while others include a remote — meaning you can hand control over to your partner entirely.

Both Lelo and OhMiBod make panty vibrators, and the latter's toys sync with phone apps for a truly hands-free experience.

3. Grinding

Grinding against just about anything — a stuffed animal, a pillow, a chair back, even a bike seat — can feel surprisingly good. It's part of why dry humping is such a hit. It's also a method a lot of girls discover on their own at a young age.

When you're riding something like that, your hands are optional — it's your hips doing the rocking and grinding to get you there.

4. Clenching Muscles

Looking for a hands-free option you can use at your desk during work or class? Squeezing and releasing your thigh muscles gets blood flowing to the area and can stimulate the clitoris in the process.

You can also contract and release your PC muscles — the same ones that stop your urine flow — to build pleasure toward orgasm. This is essentially a Kegel exercise, and it strengthens those muscles while helping with incontinence. Learn more about kegel exercises.

That's not even the only trick those muscles have up their sleeve for hands-free orgasms.

5. Holding Toys Between Your Thighs

Whether it's a vibrating wand, an insertable toy, or a clitoral stimulator, try holding it between your thighs instead of gripping it with your hand. If steady, constant contact is what does it for you, this is worth experimenting with. Some toys are even designed around pressure sensitivity — squeeze harder, get a more intense sensation.

There are limits, though — you might not get quite the pressure or rhythm you need to finish. Still, it's worth a shot at least once.

Prefer sticking with your hands? Learn how to use a vibrator for powerful orgasms in this post.

A Few Closing Thoughts

Mixing things up in the bedroom is always worthwhile — variety really is the spice of life, and it might even be essential to keeping a long-term sex life satisfying. That said, fixating too hard on orgasm as the finish line can actually make it harder to reach. Sex and masturbation can both be great even without climax, so try to enjoy the ride itself.

Struggling to orgasm lately? Check out 15 reasons you might not be able to orgasm.

Don't want to use your own hands? Enlist your partner's instead. Hopefully he's game — his fingers might reach your G-spot more effectively than your own (psst, you can learn to finger your G-spot here), and he might have real skill when it comes to clitoral touch. More on that here.

And hands-free orgasms aren't exclusive to women — men can enjoy them too, so you two might have fun exploring some of these methods as a team.

Have your partner read this post if he wants pointers on bringing you to orgasm.

The concept of a hands-free orgasm feels novel and exciting to plenty of people, especially those stuck in the same routine. That said, not everyone will manage it, and that's completely fine. Experiment, have fun with it, and remember nothing's stopping you from returning to your tried-and-true methods if hands-free just isn't working for you.

October 10, 2020